When I have plans that start at 8ish, or I tell a friend I’ll meet them around 3:30ish, my posture shifts from rushed, hurried, and anxious, to a joyful sense of adventure and journey.
When I don’t feel the pressure of getting somewhere at exactly a certain time, I can be present on the road that takes me there. For example, I was able to stop and buy a homeless man lunch the other day even though I was on my way to meet a friend for coffee. I knew that this particular friend understood and appreciated the concept of ish and wasn’t staring at her watch as she waited for me to arrive.
I think for most of what we do in life, it’s better to remove the pressure of calculating traffic, transportation, and arrival times. To take ourselves a little less seriously and to think about our jam-packed calendars a little differently. To stop showing up and apologizing for being late, but to show up and tell someone what you encountered along the way.